Mentors: Lessons
- personal995
- May 29, 2024
- 8 min read
Updated: Dec 10, 2025
Index
Lessons
Cautionary Lessons
Purpose
Mentors: Lessons is a section of Mentors.
This page and section exists to assist you to continually learn from those who have come before us.
Many wise humans have come before us. There is no need to relive all their lessons yourself.
Introduction
No one, knows everything. We all make mistakes. We are never correct the first time, every time. What was correct yesterday, can often be wrong tomorrow. Continual learning is the only way to progress.
STRATEGY OF ONE does not have all the answers, but it can help minimise missteps. These Lessons are actions, principles, rules of thumb, cautions and cognitive frameworks you can use to help avoid traps and build momentum through each stage of life.
Continually review and take what you need. Absorb the Lessons that align with your Goals, and make them a part of your internal 'operating system'.
Each Lesson has accompanying quotes from great minds that can help us symbolise and remember the Lesson. That way we can more easily draw it from our memory as required.
The portrait that partners each quote is aimed to make you feel accountable. The individual lived, experience and made the effort to share the quote you are benefitting from. Now you can honour them by living up to it in your life and work.
Process
Review these Lessons as and when it best serves you to do so:
Review with the aim of prevention in mind. To avoid having to learn it the hard way yourself.
Review if you are stuck on a specific phase or step.
Review if you are making repetitive errors.
Review if you need inspiration and motivation.
Review if you need to review or reconstruct your Models & Theories.
Review if you are looking for inspiration for Values or Goals.
Absorb and action the Lessons:
Document the next most important Lessons for you to learn in your Action Plan.
Write them in your journal, if you journal.
Screenshot them and save them on your phone or computer background.
But most importantly, put them into action.
Whatever the Lesson you discover that you need to learn, whether positive or negative, it doesn't really matter. Again, what matters is what you do next.
Continually learn, continually improve and move forward.
Lessons
1. Clarify Your Purpose and Goals
Clearly define your objectives and goals before seeking a mentoring opportunity. Understand your purpose and what you hope to achieve through the mentorship experience.
"The tragedy of life doesn't lie in not reaching your goal. The tragedy lies in having no goal to reach."
Benjamin E. Mays, American Minister (1894 - 1984)
2. Embrace Diverse Perspectives
Look for mentors with diverse backgrounds, experiences, and perspectives. A range of viewpoints enhances your learning and provides a well-rounded approach to challenges.
“When I urge a multidisciplinary approach—that you’ve got to have the main models from a broad array of disciplines and you’ve got to use them all—I’m really asking you to ignore jurisdictional boundaries. And the world isn’t organized that way … If you want to be a good thinker, you must develop a mind that can jump the jurisdictional boundaries.”
Charlie Munger, American Businessman - 1924 - 2023
3. Seek Complementary Skills
Choose mentors whose skills complement your own. Look for individuals who bring expertise in areas where you seek improvement or growth.
"If you are the smartest person in the room, then you are in the wrong room."
Unknown
4. Prioritize Values Alignment
Ensure that your values align with those of your potential mentor. Shared values contribute to a stronger and more harmonious mentorship relationship.
"Your beliefs become your thoughts, your thoughts become your words, your words become your actions, your actions become your habits, your habits become your values, your values become your destiny."
Mahatma Gandhi, Indian Leader (1869 - 1948)
5. Actively Network and Engage
Explore various networking avenues and engage in communities related to your interests. Networking increases the likelihood of discovering meaningful mentorship opportunities.
"You don't have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great."
Zig Ziglar, American Author (1926 - 2012)
6. Be Open to Reverse Mentorship
Consider mentorship as a two-way street. Be open to learning from individuals who may be less experienced but possess valuable insights, especially in areas like technology or emerging trends.
"The only source of knowledge is experience."
Albert Einstein, Theoretical Physicist (1879 - 1955)
7. Emphasize Holistic Learning
Look beyond just professional skills. Observe and learn holistically from your mentor, including their behaviors, work-life balance, and resilience strategies.
"Learn how to see. Realize that everything connects to everything else."
Leonardo da Vinci, Italian Polymath (1452 - 1519)
8. Actively Contribute to the Relationship
Mentorship is a collaborative effort. Actively contribute to the relationship by sharing your unique strengths, experiences, and perspectives, creating a mutually beneficial dynamic.
"We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give."
Winston Churchill, English Statesman (1874 - 1965)
9. Document Lessons and Insights
Keep a record of key lessons, insights, and action items from your mentorship. This documentation serves as a valuable resource for reflection and ongoing reference.
"A short pencil is better than a long memory."
Unknown
10. Curate a Diverse Reading List
Create a reading list that encompasses a variety of biographies, covering different fields, backgrounds, and eras. A diverse range of perspectives provides a well-rounded understanding of success.
"The reading of all good books is like a conversation with the finest minds of past centuries."
René Descartes, French Scientist (1596 - 1650)
12. Extract Universal Principles
Identify universal principles and themes from the discussions you have and what you read. Look beyond specific circumstances to extract timeless lessons applicable to your own journey.
"The worth of a book is to be measured by what you can carry away from it."
James Bryce, British Diplomat (1838 - 1922)
13. Analyze Both Successes and Failures
Study not only success stories but also failures and setbacks highlighted in biographies. Learn from the challenges others faced, understanding the resilience and strategies employed to overcome adversity.
“Self-serving bias has immediate and obvious consequences for our ability to learn from experience.”
Annie Duke, American Poker Player (1965 - )
14. Implement Actionable Insight
Translate insights from biographies into actionable steps. Identify practical takeaways that you can apply in your daily life, work, and personal development.
"(Applied) Knowledge is power."
Sir Francis Bacon, English Statesman (1561 - 1626)
15. Understand the Context of Challenges
Recognize the context in which challenges were faced by individuals in biographies. Understand the external factors and internal decisions that influenced their paths.
"Circumstances rule men; men do not rule circumstances."
Herodotus, Greek Historian (484 - 425 BCE)
16. Apply Historical Context
Place biographies within their historical context. Understanding the societal, economic, and cultural conditions of the time provides a deeper appreciation for the challenges faced and the strategies employed.
"Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it."
George Santayana, Spanish-American Philosopher (1863 - 1952)
By reviewing these lessons above you can gain inspiration, seek clarity, deepen your awareness of where you can improve and compound your results moving forward.
Cautionary Lessons
1. Avoid Mentorship Without Clear Purpose
Caution against engaging in mentorship without a clear understanding of your purpose and goals. Lack of clarity may lead to a mismatch between your expectations and the mentor's abilities.
"Without continual growth and progress, such words as improvement, achievement, and success have no meaning."
Benjamin Franklin, American Statesman (1706 - 1790)
2. Beware of Misaligned Values
Be cautious of mentors whose values significantly misalign with your own. Misalignment can create conflicts, hindering the effectiveness of the mentorship relationship, or worse you might learn ideas or habits that point you away from your true nature.
"To find yourself, think for yourself."
Socrates, Greek philosopher (470–399 BCE)
3. Exercise Caution with One-Size-Fits-All Approaches
Beware of mentors who apply a one-size-fits-all approach without considering your unique strengths, challenges, and goals. Personalized guidance is essential for meaningful development.
"The shoe that fits one person pinches another; there is no recipe for living that suits all cases."
Carl Jung, Swiss Psychiatrist (1875 - 1961)
4. Caution Against Overlooking Mentorship Dynamics
Be cautious about overlooking the dynamics of the mentorship relationship. A healthy dynamic involves mutual respect, active engagement, and a commitment from both mentor and mentee. A word of warning, an excelling mentee, beginning to gain more competence, attention or success than the mentor, can also potentially evoke ‘envy’ and the negative consequences that follow.
"Never outshine the master."
Robert Greene, American Author (1959 - )
5. Avoid Over-Reliance on a Single Mentor
Exercise caution against relying exclusively on a single mentor. Over-reliance can limit exposure to diverse perspectives and hinder the exploration of alternative strategies.
"If I have seen further, it is by standing on the shoulders of Giants."
Isaac Newton, English Polymath (1643 - 1727)
6. Caution Against Mimicking Without Understanding
Be cautious about blindly mimicking a mentor's actions without understanding the underlying principles. Mimicry without comprehension may hinder personal growth and creativity.
"Any fool can know. The point is to understand."
Albert Einstein, Theoretical Physicist (1879 - 1955)
7. Beware of Idealization and Simplification
Be cautious about idealizing mentors. Viewing from a distance and writings on individuals may simplify what is actually complex or extremely difficult, leading to an overly optimistic or unrealistic perception.
"All generalizations are false, including this one."
Mark Twain, American Writer (1835 - 1910)
8. Exercise Skepticism with One-Sided Narratives
Be skeptical of one-sided narratives. People’s stories, auto/biographies and writings often present a curated version of an individual's life, potentially omitting downsides, challenges or controversies.
"The whole truth is generally the ally of virtue; a half-truth is always the ally of some vice."
G.K. Chesterton, English Author (1874 - 1936)
9. Watch for Outdated Perspectives
Pay attention to the context of opinions or writings. Lessons from the past may have limited applicability to contemporary challenges, requiring adaptation to current circumstances.
"If the only tool you have is a hammer, you tend to see every problem as a nail."
Abraham Maslow, American Psychologist (1908 - 1970)
10. Be Wary of Narrow Specialization
Beware of mentors whose expertise is narrowly specialized. While valuable in specific contexts, overly specialized insights may lack versatility in addressing broader challenges.
"The specialist knows more and more about less and less and finally knows everything about nothing."
Konrad Lorenz, Austrian Ethologist (1903 - 1989)
11. Avoid Overlooking Personal Context
Be cautious about overlooking the personal context of the mentor or writings. The context in which advice is given may significantly impact its relevance to your unique situation.
"The context in which the individual finds himself in determines his interpretations of experiences more than the experiences themselves."
Jerome Bruner, American psychologist (1915 - 2016)
12. Exercise Caution with Overemphasis on Success Stories
Be wary of an overemphasis on success stories. Learning from failures and setbacks is equally valuable for a comprehensive understanding of another's journey.
"I've missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I've been trusted to take the game-winning shot and missed. I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed."
Michael Jordan, American Basketball Player (1963 - )
13. Caution Against Blind Adherence to Philosophies
Avoid blind adherence to a mentor's philosophy without critical evaluation. Your unique values and circumstances may require adjustments to philosophies proposed in written materials.
"Absorb what is useful, discard what is not, add what is uniquely your own."
Bruce Lee, Hong Kong-American Martial Artist (1940 - 1973)
By reviewing these cautionary lessons above you can heed their warning adjust to suit, deepen your awareness of where you can improve and compound your results moving forward.
Output Checklist
Completed Strategic Review Worksheet from The Workbook for approaching any Mentors related opportunities or challenges, guided by all key learnings from this section.
Next Steps
If you feel you have key learnings to takeaway, return to Mentors: Main to integrate into your Output Checklist.
To continue to learn more, move on to Mentors: Case Studies.
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