Strength: Lessons
- personal995
- May 26, 2024
- 10 min read
Updated: Dec 5, 2024
Index
Introduction
No one, knows everything. We all make mistakes. We are never correct the first time, every time. What was correct yesterday, can often be wrong tomorrow. Continual learning is the only way to progress.
STRATEGY OF ONE does not have all the answers, but it can help minimise missteps. These Lessons are actions, principles, rules of thumb, cautions and cognitive frameworks you can use to help avoid traps and build momentum through each stage of life.
Continually review and take what you need. Absorb the Lessons that align with your Goals, and make them a part of your internal 'operating system'.
Each Lesson has accompanying quotes from great minds that can help us symbolise and remember the Lesson. That way we can more easily draw it from our memory as required.
The portrait that partners each quote is aimed to make you feel accountable. The individual lived, experience and made the effort to share the quote you are benefitting from. Now you can honour them by living up to it in your life and work.
Process
Review these Lessons as and when it best serves you to do so:
Review with the aim of prevention in mind. To avoid having to learn it the hard way yourself.
Review if you are stuck on a specific phase or step.
Review if you are making repetitive errors.
Review if you need inspiration and motivation.
Review if you need to review or reconstruct your Models & Theories.
Review if you are looking for inspiration for Values or Goals.
Absorb and action the Lessons:
Document the next most important Lessons for you to learn in your Action Plan.
Write them in your journal, if you journal.
Screenshot them and save them on your phone or computer background.
But most importantly, put them into action.
Whatever the Lesson you discover that you need to learn, whether positive or negative, it doesn't really matter. Again, what matters is what you do next.
Continually learn, continually improve and move forward.
Lessons
1. Embrace Adversity as Opportunity
View challenges and setbacks as opportunities for growth and learning rather than insurmountable obstacles. Adopting a mindset that embraces adversity as a catalyst for personal and professional development builds resilience over time.
"Difficulties strengthen the mind, as labor does the body."
Lucius Annaeus Seneca, Roman Philosopher (4 BCE – AD 65)
2. Cultivate Self-Compassion
Practice self-compassion and kindness towards yourself, especially during difficult times. Recognize that experiencing setbacks or failures is a natural part of the human experience, and treat yourself with the same empathy and understanding you would offer to others.
"Be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here."
Max Ehrmann, American Writer (
3. Build a Supportive Network
Surround yourself with a supportive network of friends, family, colleagues, and mentors who uplift and encourage you. Cultivating meaningful connections and seeking support during times of need strengthens resilience and provides a sense of belonging and community.
“Don’t be ashamed to need help. Like a soldier storming a wall, you have a mission to accomplish. And if you’ve been wounded and you need a comrade to pull you up? So what?”
Marcus Aurelius, Roman Emperor (121 - 180)
4. Practice Mindfulness and Stress Management
Incorporate mindfulness practices and stress management techniques into your daily routine. Mindfulness helps you stay present, manage stress more effectively, and cultivate inner peace and resilience amidst life's challenges.
"The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another."
William James, American Psychologist (1842 - 1910)
5. Focus on Personal Growth and Development
Prioritize continuous learning, growth, and self-improvement in all areas of your life. Actively seek out opportunities for skill development, education, and personal enrichment to expand your capabilities and resilience over time.
"Be not afraid of growing slowly, be afraid only of standing still."
Chinese Proverb
6. Set Realistic Goals and Expectations
Set achievable goals and expectations that are aligned with your values, strengths, and circumstances. Setting unrealistic expectations can lead to disappointment and undermine resilience, while setting attainable goals fosters a sense of accomplishment and motivation.
"The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step."
Lao Tzu, Chinese Philosopher (6th century BCE - 5th century BCE)
7. Practice Gratitude and Positivity
Cultivate a mindset of gratitude and positivity by regularly acknowledging and appreciating the blessings and opportunities in your life. Focusing on the positive aspects of your experiences enhances resilience and fosters a sense of well-being and fulfillment.
"Gratitude can transform common days into thanksgivings, turn routine jobs into joy, and change ordinary opportunities into blessings."
William Arthur Ward, American Writer (1921 - 1994)
8. Adopt a Growth Mindset
Embrace a growth mindset, believing that your abilities and intelligence can be developed through dedication and effort. Embracing challenges, learning from failures, and persisting in the face of setbacks are hallmarks of a growth mindset that enhances resilience.
"The only limit to our realization of tomorrow will be our doubts of today."
Franklin D. Roosevelt, American Statesman (1882 - 1945)
9. Live with Purpose and Meaning
Clarify your values, passions, and purpose in life, and align your actions with what truly matters to you. Living with purpose and meaning provides a sense of direction, motivation, and fulfillment that strengthens resilience and enriches your life and work.
"The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well."
Ralph Waldo Emerson, American Writer (1803 - 1882)
11. Focus on What You Can Control
Direct your energy and attention towards things within your control, such as your attitudes, beliefs, and actions. Let go of fixation on external factors beyond your influence, and channel your efforts towards meaningful endeavors.
"You have power over your mind - not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength."
Marcus Aurelius, Roman Emperor (121 - 180)
12. Develop Inner Strength and Resilience
Nurture your inner resilience by building mental toughness, emotional intelligence, and perseverance. Cultivate the ability to bounce back from setbacks with grace and determination, seeing challenges as opportunities for growth.
"Do not judge me by my success, judge me by how many times I fell down and got back up again."
Nelson Mandela, South African Statesman (1918 - 2013)
13. Seek Wisdom and Self-Reflection
Commit to a lifelong journey of self-discovery and personal growth. Reflect on your experiences, values, and aspirations, and seek wisdom from both within yourself and from the teachings of others.
"Know thyself."
Socrates, Greek Philosopher (470 - 399 BCE)
14. Find Joy in Simple Pleasures
Appreciate the beauty and joy present in everyday moments, even amidst difficulties. Cultivate gratitude for the small blessings in life, finding solace and strength in moments of peace and contentment.
"Happiness is a butterfly, which when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."
Nathaniel Hawthorne, American Writer (1804 - 1864)
15. Live Authentically and with Integrity
Align your actions with your values and principles, even in the face of adversity. Embrace authenticity and integrity as guiding principles in your interactions and decisions, fostering inner harmony and resilience.
"To thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man."
William Shakespeare, English Playwright (1564 - 1616)
16. Find Purpose in Service to Others
Discover meaning and fulfillment through acts of kindness, service, and contribution to others. By making a positive impact on the lives of those around you, you can find purpose and significance that transcends individual struggles.
"Those who have a 'why' to live, can bear with almost any 'how'."
Viktor Frankl, Austrian Psychologist (1905 - 1997)
17. Rely on Discipline Over Motivation
By cultivating discipline, you can stay committed to your goals even when motivation wanes, increasing your chances of success. Remember, consistency breeds progress, and relying on discipline over motivation empowers you to persevere through challenges and setbacks on the path to achieving your aspirations.
"Don't worry about motivation. Motivation is fickle. It comes and goes. It is unreliable - and when you are counting on motivation to get your goals accomplished, you will likely fall short."
Jocko Willink, United States Navy SEAL (1971 - )
By reviewing these lessons above you can gain inspiration, seek clarity, deepen your awareness of where you can improve and compound your results moving forward.
Cautionary Lessons
1. Avoiding Accountability
Refusing to take ownership of one's actions and choices can hinder personal growth and resilience. Blaming external circumstances or others for setbacks prevents individuals from learning from their experiences and developing the resilience needed to overcome challenges.
"The price of greatness is responsibility."
Winston Churchill, English Statesman (1874 - 1965(
2. Resisting Change and Adaptation
Stubbornly clinging to the status quo and resisting change can lead to stagnation and fragility. In a rapidly changing world, adaptability is crucial for thriving in both personal and professional contexts. Resisting change can limit opportunities for growth and resilience.
"The only constant in life is change."
Heraclitus, Greek Philosopher (6th century to 5th Century BCE)
3. Neglecting Self-Care
Ignoring the importance of self-care and well-being can undermine overall strength and resilience. Neglecting physical, emotional, and mental health can lead to burnout, decreased productivity, and diminished capacity to cope with challenges effectively.
"An empty lantern provides no light. Self-care is the fuel that allows your light to shine brightly."
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4. Avoiding Discomfort and Risk
Shying away from discomfort and avoiding risks can prevent individuals from building resilience and achieving their full potential. Growth and resilience often require stepping out of comfort zones, embracing uncertainty, and taking calculated risks.
"If you really want to be great at something, you have to truly care about it. If you want to be great in a particular area, you have to obsess over it. A lot of people say they want to be great, but they're not willing to make the sacrifices necessary to achieve greatness. They have other concerns, and they spread themselves out. ... Greatness isn't easy to achieve. It requires a lot of time, a lot of sacrifices. It requires a lot of tough choices. It requires your loved ones to sacrifice, too. So you have to have an understanding circle of family and friends. People don't always understand just how much effort from how many people goes into one person chasing a dream to be great. There's a fine balance between obsessing about your craft and being there for your family. It's akin to walking a tightrope. Your legs are shaky, and you're trying to find your center. Whenever you lean too far in one direction, you correct your course and end up over leaning in the other direction. So you correct by leaning the other way again. That's the dance. You can't achieve greatness by walking a straight line."
Kobe Bryant, American Basketball Player (1978 - 2020)
5. Focusing Solely on External Validation
Seeking validation and approval from external sources, such as praise, recognition, or material success, can erode intrinsic motivation and resilience. Relying solely on external validation for a sense of worth and fulfillment can lead to insecurity and vulnerability.
"The greatest thing in the world is to know how to belong to oneself."
Michel de Montaigne, French Philosopher (1533 - 1592)
6. Lacking Self-Reflection and Awareness
Failing to engage in self-reflection and cultivate self-awareness can hinder personal growth and resilience. Without introspection and insight into one's strengths, weaknesses, and patterns of behavior, individuals may struggle to adapt and overcome challenges effectively.
"Self-reflection is the school of wisdom."
Baltasar Gracián, Spanish Philosopher (1601 - 1658)
7. Isolating Oneself from Support Networks
Withdrawing from social connections and support networks can exacerbate feelings of loneliness and isolation, undermining resilience. Lack of social support can limit opportunities for learning, growth, and emotional regulation.
"No man is an island, entire of itself; every man is a piece of the continent, a part of the main."
John Donne, English Poet (1572 - 1631)
8. Avoiding Failure at All Costs
Fear of failure and perfectionism can paralyze individuals and prevent them from taking risks and pursuing goals. Avoiding failure at all costs limits opportunities for growth, learning, and resilience-building experiences.
"Circumstances don't make the man, they only reveal him to himself."
Epictetus, Greek Philosopher (50 - 135)
9. Ignoring Mental Health Needs
Neglecting mental health needs and failing to seek support for psychological challenges can have serious consequences for overall well-being and resilience. Stigma surrounding mental health issues can prevent individuals from accessing the resources and support they need to thrive.
"Your mind will take the shape of what you frequently hold in thought, for the human spirit is colored by such impressions."
Marcus Aurelius, Roman Emperor (121 - 180)
10. Focusing Exclusively on Short-Term Gratification
Prioritizing immediate gratification over long-term goals and values can undermine resilience and hinder personal growth. Overindulgence in short-term pleasures can lead to procrastination, impulsivity, and a lack of resilience in the face of adversity.
"Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet."
Aristotle, Greek Polymath (384 - 322 BCE)
11. Succumbing to Learned Helplessness
Watch out for learned helplessness, where repeated exposure to adversity leads to a belief that you have no control over your circumstances. This mindset can erode resilience and inhibit problem-solving abilities.
"Believe you can and you're halfway there."
Theodore Roosevelt, American Statesman (1858 - 1919)
12. Seeking Validation Through Victimhood
Avoid seeking validation and attention solely through portraying yourself as a victim. While it may garner temporary sympathy, it ultimately reinforces a disempowering narrative that undermines your strength and agency.
"It's not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters."
Epictetus, Greek Philosopher (50 - 135)
13. Limiting Potential Through Self-Pity
Be mindful of indulging in self-pity, which can trap you in a cycle of negativity and prevent you from taking constructive action. Dwelling on perceived injustices may provide temporary relief but ultimately stifles resilience.
"Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking."
Marcus Aurelius, Roman Emperor (121 - 180)
14. Underestimating Personal Agency
Recognize the power of your own agency and ability to shape your circumstances. Underestimating your capacity to effect change can lead to missed opportunities for growth and empowerment.
"The future depends on what you do today."
Mahatma Gandhi, Indian Leader (1869 - 1948)
15. Downplaying Strengths and Resources
Guard against downplaying your strengths and internal resources while focusing solely on external challenges. Acknowledging your strengths and leveraging available resources is essential for building resilience.
"You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, 'I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.'"
Eleanor Roosevelt, American Diplomat (1884 - 1962)
16. Avoid Distorted Time Management
Be cautious of distorted time management perceptions. Underestimating or overestimating the time required for tasks can lead to poor planning and disrupt your focus. Regularly assess and refine your time management skills.
"Lost time is never found again."
Benjamin Franklin, American Statesman (1706 - 1790)
By reviewing these cautionary lessons above you can heed their warning adjust to suit, deepen your awareness of where you can improve and compound your results moving forward.
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